Helping Ourselves First

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We often look to change the world and those around us. While they are grand aspirations, we forget to look at ourselves first. We all have our own problems and demons we are battling every day so why do some of us turn the other cheek? Don’t get me working, it’s good to help out our fellow men and women but is it work it if it comes at the expense of our own life and sanity?

Whenever there is a celebrity suicide, everyone re-posts the suicide hotline and tell people to get help if they are “suffering”. But what if we are the opens that need help the most? I guess I can only speak from experience because there are many times where I pout other people ahead of myself and that hurt me in the long run.

It sucks but it’s true.

I have a hard time telling people “no” in my personal and work life even when I know I can’t take on anything else. It’s definitely a character flaw that I’ve developed in my adulthood. I

I would love to help out everyone around me but I know I am not capable of doing so and I’ve come to realize that recently. I’ve started to let things go and more importantly, not take on anything I know I can’t put 100% of my effort in. It’s been a slow process to accept the change but I am starting to embrace it. And unsurprisingly, I’ve felt much better with things on my plate. I don’t have to worry about things outside of my control anymore.

Along with that, I’m getting better at delegating stuff to others when I know I want to be able to do it. It takes time but I’m finally heading down the right path.

My mind and health appreciate it greatly.

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INFJ. Former tour manager. Geek. Soccer. Co-Founder of Mouth Off Network. Host of the Onward and Upward podcast. Freelance writer and digital media guy.

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